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Lets teach our girls that they are beautiful………..

I was editing this gorgeous girl’s gallery, and came upon some pictures that won’t make into her proofs, but………they made it into this post.  My girls came with me for the downtown part of Lexi’s shoot.  Their words were, “Oh you’re shooting Lexi?  Can we come?  We love Lexi!”  so the fact that my girls make it hard to say no, paired with the dilemma that I didn’t really have anywhere to leave them that day…..I brought them along….sort of our own little take your children to work day.  I love this picture…my girls looking up to Lexi, it makes me think.  I think of how beautiful she is, you can see how beautiful my girls think she is…..and I hope Lexi knows how special she is.

lexifacebookShe’s not just gorgeous on the outside, she’s also kind, and funny, and smart, and witty….and in a small way I hope my pictures help her to see those things about herself.  And then I thought (cause I never stop thinking…I have one of THOSE brains) I thought about my girls, and how to instill in them an innate sense of their self worth.

lexifacebook2I tell them every day they are smart, and beautiful, and strong, and that I love them…….but they are girls…..and some day they will stop believing me………..so I’ll never stop saying those things, but I must give them tools, so they’ll believe in themselves…………….so what do I do?

lexifacebook3How do I give them the tools they need?  Let them try, let them fail, show them I still love them and that it’s okay, make them work hard so they will feel a sense of accomplishment when they do, never compare them to anyone…….never tell them their feelings are wrong, let them be themselves……….and what else?……..

lexifacebook4What else do I do to help them grow up strong and happy?  Girls who believe their hearts, not the unkind of words of others around them…..I know there are parents who are exceptional at this, but for me, this doesn’t come easy.  I struggle with knowing the right thing to do, the right way to teach, to help them grow……I worry that I might do the wrong thing……..

lexifacebook5But I didn’t worry this day.  This day, I did the right thing.  I brought my girls with me…..they felt included…..they watched me work and do what I love…….they were happy to look up to a beautiful girl, a girl who on a day where a photoshoot was supposed to be all about her, treated my girls like they were important and beautiful.  They felt important.  They were thrilled.  Thank you Lexi……you’re a beautiful girl!  This day I did the right thing……now for tomorrow….    😉

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If you know me at all…you know I love shooting seniors.  They’re usually so ready to have a good time and they are up for trying new things………………so when you’re Lexi…..who’s fun, smart, up for that chilly shot…..AND gorgeous….well it just makes my job so easy!!!  I wouldn’t have the lovely pictures I do, without my gorgeous and handsome seniors…..truly.  There’s beauty in every face, and I want all my seniors to see their beauty.  Lexi…..I hope you see yours!  Enjoy!!

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Girl Power……we believe!!!!

So…..many of you know that I bought a little house to turn into a studio.  I still do mostly on location outdoor photography……but I did need a place to shoot babies, and  little sessions….and I guess I forgot how much I used to enjoy studio shooting, because it’s been fun.  Anyway……I prepped a room to shoot in….and a little reception area…but I needed a dressing room…and a spot for clients to fix hair…makeup….or just look at themselves in a mirror.  The tiny bathroom just wasn’t going to cut it.  And I have literally almost no budget for this type of thing….so I went to Lowes to wander around and come up with ideas.   So I thought…….I’ll buy a vanity light fixture and wire it with a lamp wiring kit so I can plug it into the wall since I have no wiring in my walls….and that is something I haven’t yet attempted.   So…….I did it………..I bought a light fixture…..and a wiring kit…..studio-1 copyweb

And trust me……I definitely used the instructions on this one…..

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okay so the light kit wired to my plug wire……… studio-4 copyweb

And then after everything reassembled…….I plugged it in.  It works!!! studio-6 copyweb

Then off to the studio………I hung a mirror I already had, and bought a shelf and some brackets……paired with a $10 stool from Goodwill……..so for about $55……..a makeup area for my clients….yay!studio-14 copyweb

And while we are at the studio you might as well see where the magic happens…..lol…. studio-17 copyweb

and this is the reception area…….remember that chandelier that I bought and refurbished?  There it hangs….front and center….I love it.studio-19 copyweb

And that wall……….with the pictures…….I did the drywall…..yes I’m bragging…… studio-20 copyweb

On your way out……..this is your view…….

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I wanted my girls to help me…….because I want them to know that……………

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A girl can do anything!   Girl Power……………..this is for you Brooklyn…..we Believe!

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For My Brother

Dear Daniel,

Thanksgiving Day I was anxiously checking Facebook because I knew everyone was at Mom’s except me and my family, I wanted to be there.  Late in the day FINALLY someone posted some pictures, and I laughed when I saw the giant table snaking through the family room

I scrolled through some more pictures and saw one of Brooklyn in her tee shirt that said:  Only Child expires 2013……..I laughed some more.  Dang I wish I had been there for that announcement.

The next day I got a text from mom saying Brooklyn had a tumor on her kidney.  And then the bottom fell out of everything.  More and more bad news, more and more texts saying worse and worse things.  Mom trying to talk to me on the phone, but who can talk when they are crying?

We are Disselkamps!  We love each other so fiercely!  We are special…..so how can this happen????

Daniel, you are my baby brother, I rocked you for hours when you had colic as a baby, I helped shoo you to bed on Christmas Eve so Santa could come, I tied your shoes, I worried about you when you were sick.  I still can scarcely believe you are married with a baby, so how is it that now your baby has cancer?  How are you going to make it?

Every parent’s nightmare is getting the news you got.  And your nightmare got worse after every test was done…..you have always had the biggest heart of all of us……and the biggest hearts break the hardest.

When I saw you at the hospital…..and we sobbed in each other’s arms….and I told you I would take it all away if I could……I meant it.  My heart is breaking for you.  It’s agony to see someone you love in so much pain.  It’s agony not to be able to take it away.

But….there are 13 of us, and Disselkamps are strong.  And we love each other.  Remember when you said to mom, “Momma, I need you to work one of your miracles”?…….it’s because you know it can happen, and we’re going to help.

Sitting in the family room at the hospital, we talked about the help you and Erin are going to need.  You’re going to have to be off work.  You have bills to pay.  Mom said, “As soon as every test is in, and the doctors make the game plan, and we know exactly what we are facing, and what the treatment is going to be, we are going to sit down with Dan and Erin and and her parents and we’re going to determine what needs to be done.  We are going to make sure they don’t hurt for money, they are NOT going to lose their house if they can’t work.”  So Daniel, rest easier and concentrate on your sweet sunshine, and let us do the rest.

Remember when I told you before I left the hospital, “Don’t be disappointed if your prayers don’t end in an instant miracle.  Sometimes those prayers are answered in little ways, like the fact that Brooklyn’s team of doctors is now headed up by the Chief of Oncology at Kosair Children’t Hospital.”……..that’s a prayer answered Daniel, you couldn’t ask for better care than that.

You have 12 brothers and sisters, and we have your back.  We won’t give up this fight.  We are Disselkamps…….we are Brooklyn Believers!  We love you three……you are our hearts.

Your big sister……Selina

And for anyone who would like to help my baby brother and his little family, please donate to them, even the smallest amount will help.  This is going to be a long, hard fight.  Please help them.

http://www.giveforward.com/brooklynsbelievers